Well, I'd start right here with my advice: I am urging you, parents, allow no complete privacy.
I'm not suggesting that you need to sit between your teen and his date at the movie theater, but there should never be a moment when they are alone without an adult in the house. It's far better to create an environment of power and self-control, where they have you to rely on, rather than to leave them to their own devices. As in many/most households, the subject of dating will come up at some point—hopefully later rather than sooner.
I wanted to confirm what I suspected—that it was a family outing and the boy was allowed to join them. She assured me that she and her also-twelve-year-old boyfriend were driven to the mall and dropped off, where they had dinner in the food court, wandered around for an hour, and then went to a movie. My intention has always been to do as my parents did and not let my kids date until they were sixteen—hoping they'd choose to wait even longer.
Invariably, over time, teens within the group will pair up and begin seeing each other outside the group setting as well.
Many parents feel overwhelmed and uninformed, unsure of how to really reach their teenagers, much less help them manage the world of love, sex, and relationships.
As a professional counselor, I have worked with a number of parents and their teens, and have found that having an impact in your teenager's life comes down to five important things: Interestingly enough, the most effective way to influence your teenager when it comes to shaping his perspective on love and dating has very little to do with your interactions with him.
You see, I didn't realize how common it was for parents to actually allow and even encourage pre-teens to go out on single dates without any supervision, or even be in the home alone with no chaperone.
This astounded me—someone who often gets asked for advice on ways to help teens stay pure.