Take a moment to imagine being in a relationship and not worrying at all about the other person leaving or hurting you. This internal struggle to let your guard down may mean that you need to start small and build up to a point where you feel comfortable trusting another.Trust is damaged easily and quickly, and repairing it take time and effort.With this type of insecurity, it is difficult to be comfortable or feel truly happy.You may even wonder why you haven't found "the one." You might believe you haven't found the right person, but the problems in your relationships could actually lie with you. Is it almost as if you just can't allow yourself to completely let go?
A man who exhibits controlling behavior generally does so because he is scared of the vulnerability that is part of loving and trusting his partner, writes psychologist Marie Hartwell-Walker, in “Signs of a Controlling Guy” on the Psych Central website.These are some of the signs of trust issues: Do you have a password on your phone? If not, it can be a clear sign that you have some problems with trust.While privacy is an essential, it is mandatory in any relationship.Trust issues stemming from infancy or early childhood are much harder to overcome; later trust violations are easier to resolve.Evaluating where the trust issues come from will help in problem solving, according to Casey Truffo in her Theravive article, “How to Fix Trust Issues in a Relationship." This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try talking with men who experienced early trust violations, but to avoid chronic frustration and disappointment, it is important to keep the origin of trust issues in mind.Learning to trust people occurs very early in our development; it evolves through consistent and predictable responses from caretakers to meet our needs during infancy, according to Erik Erikson’s book “Childhood and Society.” Trust issues can come from fractures during this early developmental stage or they can evolve through negative experiences in other relationships where basic trust is violated.If you are involved with a man who has trust issues, he may be very hard to talk to; he will be afraid to open up and be honest about his thoughts and feelings.A lot of times, prematurely entering relationships leads us to bring unresolved problems from previous relationships.This gives our significant others unfair disadvantages; it hinders them from giving us their all because we never give them a chance to do so.But there are some things you can do to facilitate open communication and perhaps even help him to trust you.The first aspect to keep in mind is where the mistrust originated.