Women have rich emotional networks and girlfriends, whereas [a man's] emotional network was their wife.
[She] was the emotional support, [she] was [their] whole social network.
Now, I’m not saying I have talked to my boyfriend about marriage and kids and moving in together, but I do know that we are both really into each other, which is kind of the geekiest greatest feeling.
You get to be vulnerable with someone and have them be vulnerable in return.
According to Tatkin, if one of your goals is to treat cohabitation like a "trial session" to see how you'd fit as a married couple, you should think about how you're going to define success.
I recently started dating someone and we went from zero to a hundred real quick. I had a man who wanted to hang out with me the day after our first date.
Going from dating to relationship is also a process that requires your attention, effort, energy, interaction and, sometimes, even the ability to be your own shrink, best friend and a fortune teller all in the same time.
Make sure you're able to compromise now and then, and that you've found a way to hash out disagreements that works for you.
"A couple that is bad at handling conflict quickly, repairing injuries or bad feelings promptly, or that isn’t interested in putting the relationship first over self interests is also likely to get into trouble sooner than later," says Tatkin.
I know this is beyond cliche, but there was such a strong, instantaneous connection that it just felt natural to hang out with him the next day. I gave myself a million reasons why I shouldn’t continue at break-neck speed with my new beau.
Maybe I had rose-tinted glasses on and was missing some glaringly obvious reason as to why this was going to crash and burn.