At least in normal life, if you look at the person you thought you’d marry and suddenly realize that you can’t stand the sight of them, you can just break up.
But when this person is a work colleague, you may still have to maintain a professional relationship no matter how badly things end.
Some things are universal don’ts, like dating someone you work with. So is there anyway to make a romantic relationship and a career thrive in the same place?
Psychologist Art Markman helps this reader figure it out.
We both really like each other so we don’t want to break up, and we’re always professional in the office.When you spend eight or nine hours a day with the same group of people, you're likely to form close bonds and friendships.It's only natural that, on occasion, those friendships evolve into something more.Aside from the negative implications of a managerial relationship between two lovebirds, Steve Albrecht, an HR and security consulting professional, said co-workers don't like to see kissing at the water cooler or baby talk between two adults.Public breakups can get messy too, and the trash talk, taking sides or the silent treatment in such close quarters can make things awkward for both the couple and their colleagues, he said.Is this something we have to bring up with our boss? Thanks, BG Dear BG: It is not surprising that you have gotten into a relationship with someone at work.You spend about a third of your life while you’re awake at work.“My options sometimes feel like it’s either work or Tinder,” one friend recently said to me, only half joking.She, like a lot of professional women in their twenties, is focused on making serious strides in her career before she has to make tough decisions about marriage and kids.We spoke with HR experts about how to best approach the issue of dating in the workplace.There are a lot of risks involved with in-office relationships regarding the image and morale of your company.