Redirecting your attention back to you can also help distract you from whatever your ex is doing.
Spending time renewing your energy by doing things you enjoy and taking care of yourself physically can help to increase your feelings of self-worth.
Breaking up with someone you are still in love with is surely one of the hardest things you might have ever gone through.
And it doesn’t help at all if your Ex has moved on to her next relationship and is busy seeing someone else.
But there are steps you can take to cope with your ex dating someone else. After a breakup, you may want to isolate yourself, particularly if you find out your ex is dating.
Despite the urge to want to stay home, watch television and beat yourself up over the breakup, seek support from friends and family.
When I break up with someone I ship them off to an imaginary island where they roam free and make coconut snowmen and live very happy, very celibate lives far, far away from me.
Their perspective also can help reduce your feelings of jealousy. Seeing your ex with someone else can feel like a physical blow to your self-esteem.
Believe in your ability to make her fall for you and give it some good time as well. Give her enough time to figure out her true feelings for you. This new guy she has made a straight jump to is in all probability just a rebound relationship she has gotten herself into.
Do understand that the chances of it getting serious or working out well is going to be very very slim. Just relax and let her figure out that she is in fact in a pointless rebound relationship.
No, our friendship wasn’t conventional, and no, there was no real protocol for this type of thing, but Then again, there were many things I did over the years I felt weren’t reciprocated, so why would he start respecting my feelings now? “Insulting the new girl makes you feel better about yourself, which helps you feel good and maintains your self-esteem,” she explains. Yet there I was, foaming at the mouth, texting the gutless wonder to see what he’d say.
This was right around the time I started feeling like a “Girl, Interrupted” sequel. I privately tore her apart, the entire time not understanding what I was doing or why – it’s not like I wanted him back. I ended up receiving the same old misunderstood victim saga he’d give me every time I had to confront him about something during the course of our relationship.