"It was impossible to get him on the phone, never mind keep our regular Sunday breakfast date.And he started to think he was cooler than me, or something.Remember that men are most often widowed by catastrophic and sometimes long term illness in their partner, they often need those feelings of freshness to give them a kind of renewal.Dating someone of your own age can appear to the man as making himself more vulnerable to the situation of having someone to care for without the depth of devotion that came to them in their first marriage over time. You are right in saying that the difference between ages when speaking of ages like 42 and 65 are not very significant.What about a man who is 65 dating a woman who is 42 year of age. Answer: There is nothing wrong with widowed men dating younger women.
All of this makes dating more and more complex as we get older. Still, most of them fail miserably, for the exact same reasons that I think Penelope is suggesting.But Tim is young at heart and I have an old soul, so we meet in the middle (I'm now 26; he is 52).He spends weekends jumping out of airplanes, and I spend them reading a book at the drop zone waiting for him to land.But see, for men who covet younger women, it’s not whether you look good for your age – it’s what age you really are. If she wants to date a guy who is 6’2”, makes 0,000 , likes skiing, is within ten miles of her house and five years of her age, you know what? All she has to do is go on Match.com, and wade through a few thousand applicants. There are many other things that are attractive about older men. They can afford nicer restaurants and vacations and have cultivated greater tastes in the arts.They’re more experienced, more chivalrous, and more likely to want to settle down than a twentysomething party boy.When a man her father's age wanted to date girls younger than she, what did it mean for her own prospects? She became more self-conscious of her appearance both when she was around her father and when she wasn't."I couldn't help but think that my father might think I was somehow too old to be worthy," she says. I worried about my appearance in front of him more than a daughter should. It was all-around creepy." We used to look at May to December romances as something sort of scandalous, but they're becoming far more common as divorce rates rise and our obsession with youth continues.And despite Tim's initial blow-off, we have quite a bit in common.We're both driven and goal-oriented (he's a former Navy Seal turned entrepreneur, and I am a safety specialist for a company that manufactures gear motors).More parents of adult children are dating, and marrying, partners who are as young as (or even younger than) their adult children.But not without consequence: When your parent dates someone near your age, it can cause rifts in your relationship, even if you're an adult.