--Worried Dear Worried, Firstly, forgive me for my strong opinions on this subject. Simply stated, there is no easy way to introduce your mother to your non-Jewish girlfriend, because doing so will confirm to your mother her failure in instilling within you a desire to make Jewish choices in life, to build a Jewish home, and to raise Jewish children.Even for secular Jewish parents, this remains a high priority.I am involved in a relationship with a Catholic girl who I love spending time with.She had introduced me to her family and they like me and let me come to their house.I know it can sound highly unfair that certain groups demand that the faithful marry within the faith.But if Jews don't marry other Jews, then there won't be any Jews left.However, I just can’t accept the fact that he isn’t Jewish.
He had known other girls and, as I was twenty-five before we married, I had had my share of other men's attention.
We determined that no obstacle should prevent our union, and obstacles there were a-plenty as soon as our families learned our intention.'Child,' entreated my mother, who deep in her heart had always hoped that what she referred to as my superior intelligence, careful upbringing, talents, and attractiveness, would land me a husband well up in the social levels, ‘bethink yourself what this means.
Married to a Jew, you will be barred from certain circles.
Consequently our marriage was not the hasty, impassioned leap of two people soaring on the Icarian wings of a first love.
That which was between us was calm as the night, deep as the sea; in the light of it we both knew that forever afterwards he would look upon other women, and I upon other men, as pale wraiths.