Writing successful online dating messages

It can be intimidating to write a message for a perfect stranger in hopes of finding a love interest online, but all you need is practice and a little finesse.

Below you’ll find 6 dos and dont’s for crafting an attractive introductory message.

So, do you have any advice for how to get my message to stand out? Most dating sites have a flirty option which allows you to express your interest without having to actually message a person.

(On How About We, this is the “I’m Intrigued” button, on OKCupid it’s a wink.) In general, this is not a good way for a guy to approach a girl on an online dating site.

While you’re at it, direct your compliments to personality traits and not appearances.

Whatever happens, don't be put off sending messages, a cheesy message is better than no message at all!

Well, you can start by remembering these three basic rules: It’s not that “You’ve got a great smile, let’s go out sometime” is a bad opener. I read your profile and thought it was really amazing. So please look at my profile and if you like what I had to say, write back to me when you get a chance. If you’re too complimentary in that initial email, you can come off as desperate and needy. Still, the question remains: how do you say something original and flirty?

Yours, Evan Every line of this message can be thrown out. Because anyone whom you contact knows by virtue of you writing to them that a) you liked their profile, b) you liked their photo and c) you’d like a reply. That, my friends, is what separates the most successful online daters from the rest of the pack. In this case, I’ve written them for men replying to women, but the steps are applicable to everyone: Every word of it.

This is your first impression, and it’s important you get it right. Do Be Specific and Personalize Your Message When reaching out to a match, you should show them that you’ve actually read their profile by personalizing your message.

Being generic won’t win you many points or responses.